The relationships we have in life are not by random chance. Whether it be family relationships, friendships or romantic relationships, they all have a higher purpose.
A common misconception about romantic relationships is that the other person is there to “complete” you.
No one can do that. You really wouldn’t want that, when you think about it. Giving someone else the responsibility for your “completeness” is giving your power away to another person. You become dependent on that person for your own state of well-being. The best way to enter into any relationship is to take responsibility for your own “completeness” and happiness. Then you can come together as two complete people who enjoy being together and growing together.
Relationships end when the higher purpose is fulfilled
When a relationship ends, most people feel like it failed but that isn’t necessarily the case. It may simply be that the purpose of the relationship has been fulfilled and it’s time to move forward. Thinking about what you learned from that relationship is of great value. You could have gained more clarity on what it is you really want in a relationship, or you may have learned something about yourself that will help to propel you forward in life with more ease. You may have developed a better sense of self.
Not all relationships are meant to be life long, although many are. When partners continue to grow and expand together, a relationship can last a lifetime.
To tune in to the higher purpose of a relationship you need to work at a soul level.
Here are some suggestions as to how you might approach it.
Begin by getting quiet and focusing on your breathing. Allow yourself to relax. Once you’ve achieved a calm state, you’re ready to invite your soul or higher self to join with you. Simply intend for this connection. Some people experience their soul as light, some feel a great heart opening of unconditional love and some don’t have any experience of it at all. No matter what you experience or don’t experience, trust that your soul always comes when you call it.
Invite the other person’s soul to join you. Imagine a higher light above you both (the Being of Love or the star Sirius for example). Imagine the light from this higher source coming in the top of your head and that of the other person. See it energizing your heart centers. Connect with the other person, heart to heart, sending energy from your heart to theirs and back again.
Some questions you might ask are:
1. What have we come together to learn, to create, and to bring the world?
2. What is this relationship teaching us?
3. What soul qualities are we developing?
4. What are our soul’s purposes for being together?
5. What contributions am I making to this person’s soul? What am I teaching this person?
6. What am I learning from this person?
Allow yourself a little time between each question. You may get an insight right away, or it may come to you sometime later when you are quiet or doing something that doesn’t take a lot of focus, such as in the shower, daydreaming or cleaning your house. You might also ask these questions as you are falling asleep and ask for insight while dreaming and as you’re waking up.
Whether or not you consider a relationship of any kind to be good or bad, they all have a higher purpose. Play with this, and consider the time and energy you’ve put into your relationships. The most important gifts you give to your relationships are the gifts of the heart.
